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Reminder of The Power of Common Courtesy

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We are in full relocation mode this week but I want to share a post I published on my blog BeingTiff in 2015. The post was originally entitled Operation Common Courtesy. With the state of society and the sadness associated with various situations around the world, I thought it would be a great reminder of the need to demonstrate common courtesy to those around us.

It’s been almost four years since this post was published but I still experience odd looks from people whenever I say “Good Morning” or “Thank You.” But I don’t know their story so I speak and offer a smile of encouragement. If you read this post today and struggle with thoughts of suicide, please contact The National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273-8255.

Operation Common Courtesy is a repost from BeingTiff.wordpress.com

On Friday I had the honor of hearing the powerful story of a young man who survived what should have been a tragic story of a 19 year old suicide victim.  Thankfully it was the story of a survivor, an advocate, an inspiration and a walking success story.

As I sat and listened to his testimony, I was struck by one recurring theme – “what happened to common courtesy?”  I can’t do his story justice but I am going to try.  This young man sat among and walked among several people of various ages, genders and races and literally cried for help.  

Key word, cried.

Everywhere he went he cried. As he walked he cried. As he rode he cried. People pointed people laughed but no one asked him if he was ok.  And that was the one phrase he needed to hear. “Are you ok?”  

He said to hisself if one person will just ask me if I was ok I won’t go through with killing myself.  Again that thought occurred to me, “what happened to common courtesy?”  I remember a time in which a person could shed one tear and everyone would stop and ask if you needed anything.  I remember when it was unthinkable to walk past a child or woman asking for money for gas or a meal.  “What happened to common courtesy?”

It wasn’t until I listened to his story that   I remembered when I was pregnant and tried to walk in the door at McDonalds, people would push me out of the way.  “What happened to common courtesy?”  I was inspired by that testimony and decided to take up his challenge of giving a smile to everyone I meet because it may be the only one they receive.  That was easy for me so I decided to make it more challenging, I decided to see if common courtesy was still alive. For the sake of my own challenge, I considered common courtesy to be any of the following:

1. “Good Morning”

2. “Hello!”

3. “How are you? Then actually respond”

4. “Have a great day”

5. “You look nice!”

6. “Are you ok?”

I wish I could say that my challenge experience was positive but I was saddened by the number of people that wouldn’t even return “Good Morning” or “Hello.”  I was even more surprised by the odd looks I received just from uttering those words to strangers.  

I guess common courtesy is not as common as I thought.  Now knowing this unfortunate truth, I plan to keep practicing what I am calling OPERATION COMMON COURTESY.  I will model this behavior for my children and put the expectation of a return reply in their minds.  Maybe by demonstrating a little compassion, my family may help another hurting person who is thinking to themselves, “If one person asks me how I am doing, I won’t kill myself.”

What about you? Will you choose to join us in OPERATION COMMON COURTESY?

Til next time,

Give a smile to someone today, it may be the one thing they need to keep them going.

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Goal Achievement

The Path to a 5K A Month

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March 2019 did not include the completion of an organized 5K race which means I failed in my attempt to have a 5K a month. However, I am counting March as a 5K triumph because I did continue walking and trying to eat better. Each of these were integral to my preparation for the 5K a month challenge.

If you have been with me this year, you may remember that I created this challenge for myself as part of improving my overall health and weight loss. Ironically I have struggled with being anemic it seems all my life and I am working with my doctor to get my iron levels up (which will increase my energy), so hitting my fitness goals are important to me in More ways than one.

My March race goal was not intentionally missed but because I miscalculated the impact soccer season would have on registering for races, I am disappointed that I didn’t proactively plan better. Thus I forgot my basic rules of planning and my one rule of learning from failure.

1. Conduct a brief analysis as to the circumstances which contributed to inactivity.

March 5K Analysis

This year there is a gap in scheduling between the boys’ games which means we spend more time at the soccer field then we did before. Not to mention, the hubby is coaching this season.

2. Identify the barriers which were embedded within the circumstances.

Barrier

Soccer ends at noon, thus a Saturday morning race is not doable.

3. Specify what you need to remove the barrier

Need

My April 5K should occur on a soccer break or in the evening, maybe Sunday.

These are three ways I use to cope with not meeting a goal. It helps me focus on the journey not the failure. As I keep my focus on these factors and my desire for weight loss, I am sure I will be able to meet my April 5K goal.

What are some ways you use to learn from temporary failure?

Til next time,

“FOCUS – Follow One Course Until Successful” – Robert Kiyosaki

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10 Quotes On Embracing Change

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Believe in the power of writing things down to make them happen!

There are a few pieces of advice I give everyone all the time and it takes the least amount of time and energy. I believe wholeheartedly in this practice that I began a new tradition each year of buying myself a new journal and gift journals to others.

Write it down!

No matter how small the goal, thought, perceived pain or idea – write it down. There have been a few things my family has written down on an ordinary sheet of paper and forgotten about it. You see we have a habit of taking photos of items we want to purchase and then creating a budget or timeline for when we hope to attain them.

As part of this process, the photo often becomes a screensaver or included on a wishlist somewhere (usually in a journal). Truth be told it’s often forgotten and then found at the oddest times – but the timing of the discovery is always when we have the means to make the purchase we previously desired.

It’s like our own little version of wishing on a star or throwing a penny into a well to make a wish. There are some who would say we used the law of attraction but I prefer to believe in the principle of writing things down to make them happen. So with this thought in mind and our desire to change the things we didn’t like, we made some plans for 2018-2019 and they have taken off like a rocket.

But while I am eternally grateful for the wonderful progress we have made, it is sometimes like we have been teleported into the future like Marty McFly from Back to the Future. Things are moving faster than expected in some areas and slow as molasses in others. Oh well! So is life!

Thus, it seems appropriate to post motivational quotes during a week in which I have been plagued with daily thrives to my productivity and positive mindset.

1. “A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success.” Joyce Brothers

2. “There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.” Colin Powell

3. “Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.” Oprah Winfrey

4. “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” – Nelson Mandela

5. “Personal development is a major time-saver. The better you become, the less time it takes you to achieve your goals.” – Brian Tracy

6. “Things turn out best for those who make the best of the way things turn out.” – John Wooden

7. “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.” – Alice Walker

8. “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” – Winston Churchill

9. “All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy, for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter into another.” – Anatole France

10. “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” – Lao Tzu

Quote number ten by Lao Tzu spoke to me and my circumstances this week and it has been added to all of my tech devices and my personal cheerleader. Which of these speaks to you? Do you have a quote to recommend? Leave me a comment.

Til next time,

“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” – Steve Maraboli

Books and Words

10 Things You Can Do In Your Daily Life To Improve Your Personal Development

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Each day I have two scheduled appointments on my calendars which are devoted to personal development tasks such as books, podcasts and online learning.

During today’s first scheduled slot I can across an article from The Ascent entitled 10 Things You Can Do In Your Daily Life To Improve Your Personal Development. This article has common sense but useful reminders for those of us who think personal development and growth requires dedicated blocks of time and money. While money invested in your growth should be a priority the practice of participating in activities which will help you develop and/or enhance your skill set is of more importance.

This is a quick read and I recommended committing to at least two of these tips today.

Til next time,

“Income seldom exceeds personal development” – Jim Rohn