How the YouTube Like Feature Taught Me to Appreciate Myself

“If you try to follow everyone else’s mold, you’ll probably fail at some point because God created us uniquely for a reason” – Queen Latifah

YouTube has become a part of my weekly routine. The access to various industry experts like Mel Robbins, Brian Tracy, Gloria Mayfield Banks, Les Brown and Simon T. Bailey serves as a form of inspiration and encouragement as I strive to be better each day.

I have witnessed different viewpoints and examples on success, funny clips which made me laugh as well as discovered additional books I may choose to read. However, I recently noticed a few things each video has in common. I mean no matter who created, uploaded or edited the video – there is always a plea to select the thumbs up icon which symbolizes the viewer “liked” the video. This selection feeds into algorithms which probably tie into the creators payments.

What it also does is signify to the creator that the effort placed into creating that video was appreciated. This got me thinking, how much time and effort have I wasted to get others to appreciate me by trying to emulate someone else. The videos I like on YouTube are those who are being authentic and give credit to those who inspire them to try something new.

Today, I don’t want to be anyone else but me. Now tomorrow I may want to be Michelle Obama or J. K. Rowling. But by the end of the day, I’m positive that I will want to be good old fashioned me.

I may want to work on my poise and public speaking to emulate the style of Michelle Obama. OR

I may want to coordinate my wardrobe in the monochromatic and gypsy fashion of Ashley Simpson-Ross. OR

I may want to spend time in Starbucks with my iPad and imagination during NaNoWriMo and consider myself as J. K. Rowling writing a blockbuster book series. OR

I may want to belt out Sorry Not Sorry and Tell Me You Love Me like Demi Lovato.

But at the end of each of those mini sessions of my life, I will always look forward to being me.

Me, a mom of three kids that love me and function as my human alarm each morning.

Me, a wife of a man who loves me through my many faults.

Me, an entrepreneur striving to get through analysis paralysis each day.

There comes a time when we have to look in the mirror and decide that we like and appreciate what we see. Now this may require action on our part, if you don’t like who you see in the reflection.

But without action how can we expect to improve our own self confidence. Take a moment today to look at your day from the perspective of a YouTube creator, what can you do to press thumbs up and “like” yourself today?


LifeHack.org – How I Break 3 Bad Habits in Less Than 2 Months

Happy Saturday!

I have heard that if you do something for 21 days then you will create a new habit.  There must be some truth to this statement because the amount of products and youtube videos I have seen that are designed to track your habits are about as numerous as the number of people telling us how to make money online.

Not that it is anything wrong with either of these things – there are just a lot of people talking about and following the practice.  I happen to think that is a good thing because it means that people are trying to improve their life and circumstances.

You already know I am a big fan of being better.  In fact, check out the below picture of my binder (the same print out is on my office wall in pink).

IMG-8132Yeah don’t judge my photography skills –   The point is I surround myself with reminders to be better so when I find an interesting perspective on an issue that can help someone else, I just have to share it.  So here we go, another interesting article from my email.

LifeHack.org posted an article entitled How I Break 3 Bad Habits in Less Than 2 Months.  The author uses a system he calls the control alternate delete method which stands for:

  • Control (Ctrl): Master Your Desire
  • Alternate (Alt): Find a Replacement
  • Delete (Del): Remove Temptations
  • The author goes more into detail regarding how to implement the control alt del method for maximum effectiveness. If you are struggling with breaking bad habits, there would be no harm in trying out these strategies. You can then check off your progress on your chosen habit tracker.
  • Even if you don’t read the article, you have to admit the control alternate delete method seems doable and common sense.  So read the article, what harm could come from it?  Then tell me, are you going to try this method out?

    Til next time,

    “Never waste a minute thinking about people you don’t like.” – Dwight D. Eisenhower

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    Wednesday Wisdom: A Jump Start of Inspiration

    Happy Wednesday!

    I hope this day finds you enjoying the weather where ever you may be located.  Here in the Southern USA, it is a comfortable 90 degrees and lots of sunlight (for the moment).  Thus I thought it would be a good day to add a little sunshine in the form of inspiration with a few motivational quotes that could easily be turned into daily affirmations with just a change of a few words.

    Each one would be great to post around your home or utilize as screenshots.  I like to choose a different quote each week to work into my affirmation routine along with my daily scripture.  It helps keep me focused on what I am striving to do instead of focusing on the negative.  We gotta find those ways to stay happy and be better or we will end up …. I will let you finish that sentence.

    Anyway back to the quotes.  Each of the quotes from this post come from the author Bob Proctor.  If you are unaware of who Bob Proctor is, google his name and you will discover a multitude of personal development tools he has created.  You can even download his book – You Were Born Rich.

    Without further adieu, here are a few quotes to inspire you into action:

    ” Be like a postage stamp. Stick to it until you get there.”

    “Set a goal to achieve something that is so big. so exhilarating that it excites you and scares you at the same time.”

    “You are the only problem you will ever have and you are the only solution.  Change is inevitable, personal growth is always a personal decision.”

    “Most people are not going after what they want.  Even some of the most serious goal seekers and goal setters, they’re going after what they think they can get.”

    “If you do not get the chills when you set your goal you’re not setting big enough goals.”

    “The only limits in our life are those we impose on ourselves.”

    “If you know how what to do to reach your goal, it’s not a big enough goal.”

    “No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and application of wise thought that counts.”

    “Always ask yourself the question – “is this going to help get me to my goal or not?”

    “It’s the little things you do that can make a big difference. What are you attempting to accomplish? What little thing can you do today that will make you more effective? You are probably only one step away from greatness.”

    Til next time,

    “The biggest gap in your life is that between what you know and what you do.” – Bob Proctor


    Happiness Is A Choice

    Happy Monday M.I.D.A Project Readers!

    If you haven’t noticed by now, I try to start each post with the word – HAPPY!  I do this because happiness should and is a pursuit that is worth keeping in the forefront of our minds and actions.  The rest of this post is intended to be a pep talk for those who are still attempting to decide whether they want to be bitter or better.  It is for people like me who have experienced their share of frustration associated with life.

    Happiness doesn’t come from other people it comes from within and is not easy to recognize.  Realities of life have a way of robbing us of the ability to see the strength to create and recognize moments of pure joy unless we are looking for it.  There are things which will bring us down, such as:

    1. Illness;
    2. Job Loss;
    3. Grief & Bereavement;
    4. Being single, married, divorced;
    5. Bad day at work;
    6. Insensitive boss;
    7. Bad breakup; and
    8. Any number of other things which can happen in life.

    These things happen and we can get caught up in feeling that we have been unfairly targeted or not rewarded.  We get the why me syndrome and then if we aren’t careful it can turn from self pity into bitterness.

    But that will not be a productive use of our time.  In fact it will accomplish the one thing that will prevent us from making achievements.  We miss the successes that are along the journey of life – things like:

    1. The smile of children dressing up in new clothes for the first day of school;
    2. The child going off to college for the first time;
    3. The new car scent in your new to you vehicle;
    4. The sun shining after numerous days of rain;
    5. Rainbows in the sky;
    6. Graduation from school;
    7. Receiving an A or B on a test; and
    8. Any number of similar things.

    It is easy to lose track of our own responsibility to achieve and maintain internal happiness when we look for things and people to fulfill or reaffirm us.  Today my baby boy was unable to receive a medical evaluation that we had waited months to get scheduled, all because our insurance didn’t feel that there was a need for this service.  Whomever wrote the rules associated with coverage of health needs has never lived with a child or a parent that needs medical intervention.

    I can choose to be bitter and give in to my feelings of helplessness or I can wipe my tears and focus on being happy that I have a child whose life is not dependent on that medical evaluation.  I am choosing to embrace the happiness of having my child with me and able to hug and kiss.

    My happiness is predicated on me.

    What is your happiness predicated on?  How will you ensure you recognize those moments of success that occur during each day?

    Til next time,

    “Health is a state of complete harmony of the body, mind and spirit. When one is free from physical disabilities and mental distractions, the gates of the soul open.”  ~B.K.S. Iyengar