“An easy way to become a good conversationalist”
Here we go again. A great tag line that leads your mind to wander as to what the secret is. Is it one of those great African Proverbs? Maybe a snippet from the biblical Proverb? Or maybe it’s an ancient Chinese secret as The Karate Kid movie says? Maybe it’s just basic common sense written from a creative perspective that helps us to have a desire to follow along.
Well the notable answer was a combination of all. The basic premise is, do what you want others to do – Listen. Listen and not interrupt. However the scenarios profiled help to make this basic skill entertaining. In college I was taught the skill of active listening as a means of ensuring that we understand information being conveyed. This chapter is conveying the same information but has packaged it in a manner that details the benefits to the listener as well as the talker.
Here are a few of the quotes and questions to consider regarding Chapter 7.
1. “Exclusive attention to the person who is speaking to you is very important. Nothing else is so flattering as that.” – Charles W. Eliot
2. “They have been so much concerned with what they are going to say next that they do not keep their ears open. … Very important people have told me that they prefer good listeners to good talkers, but the ability to listen seems rarer than almost any other good trait.” – Isaac F. Marcosson
3. “So if you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested.” – Dale Carnegie
Questions For Reflection:
1. What did former Harvard President Charles W. Eliot say is the secret of a successful business interview?
2. How did Edward Bok become a successful magazine editor with only 6 years of schooling?
3. What did the author ask you to remember when you are talking to someone?
Strategies For Success:
Listen. Look into their eyes and remove all distractions. Listen.
Til next time,
“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” – Mohandas Gandhi